***Warning, this My Health Monday post is more explicit than a typical day on PFL***
Would you be surprised if I told you that a common question amongst 30 – 40 year old women for me has to do with decreased libido?
I actually generated this post after reading a post about the FDA’s recent rejection of a Dopamine pill that increases female sexual libido. I found the discussion on the post less than intelligent so I decided to draft a conversation topic for the PFL community.
flibanserin
Flibanserin is the subject of discussion because it’s the latest rejection in the LONG journey toward a “female viagra”.
Studies show that 10- 20% of women struggle with HSDD (Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder which basically means a woman who is otherwise healthy has a lacking libido, or a lack of sexual desire).
It was basically rejected because the benefits did not outweigh the risk and side effects. You can read more about that here.
Why They Will Continue to Struggle
Women are intimate with the mind more so than straight physical.
I hear women all the time trying to speak in the manner of man “A f*xk is just a f*ck”, YES I’ve been told that, but do I believe them….ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! Women who try to operate as men, will end up psychologically challenged for lack of a better term.
That is why men can pop a pill (Viagra) that increases blood flow to the penis and all is well.
Drug companies are struggling to find the female equivalent because we are intimate with our BRAIN!!! You can’t go messing with chemicals in the brain without affecting something else in the way we operate and think.
OPTIONS
Testosterone – Many women have tried this but the deep voices and hair growth are less than desirable.
Reading – This advice is not from a pharmaceutical perspective, but actually from conversations that were generated after pharmaceutical questions were discussed. I have actually been told first hand that books like 50 Shades of Grey have helped women increase their libido.
I have another option for you too. Stay tuned for Wednesday!
I know there may be crickets in the comments today, but if you are brave enough, let me hear from you!
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Yours in Healthy, Active, & Prosperous Lifestyles,
Rx Fitness Lady wants to know…
- Have you ever taken a pill for something and the side effects made it not worth it?
- Do you agree that women think with their head intimately?
- Do you want Viagra for females?
- Do you have suggestions for women suffering from decreased libido?
- Have you read 50 Shades of Grey, what did you think of the trilogy?
Rx Fitness Lady
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I love that yoy speak about topics like this! I’m actually planning on writing a post on birth control for the new year. I decided to try it again after not being on it for over 5 years and the hormones made me so crazy that I had to stop! I was constantly hungry and gained 6 VISABLE lbs in 2 weeks… needless to say the benefits of clearing my skin and less cramps don’t outweigh the weight gain for me.
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I am a virgin no need for these types of things……
I don’t have a sex life not because of the low libido but because we just don’t have time to squeeze it in. Hubs works 6 days a week now 7 because of the holiday and I am with kids practically by myself all day everyday. We give each other a high five in the evenings and we sleep that’s about it. Instead of viagra how about a paid vacation with babysitters.
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There’s always time for what we prioritize Kita! You are funny with the high five!
Since men are the one with the crazy sex drive, why did they need Viagra in the first place…it seems like something should have been created by the women to keep up. Personally, I’m glad they rejected it. I think they could have done without Viagra too. Many of the women I’ve spoken to over my career seems satisfied with their libido, but of course being married to men with a high sex drive (many on the little blue pill), they are forced to keep up to maintain their relationship.
But often times the men don’t know that pleasing a woman’s emotional and psychological needs can lead to having his physical needs met.
Anywhoo, I’m sure you probably expected crickets from the church girl but I’ve taught sex education, HIV/AIDS courses to healthcare professionals and did an internship doing pre and post HIV test counseling. I can talk forever on this subject.
You know I’m a person who likes to follow the rules, so I mailed my Secret Santa on the 9th and I know the person received it 🙂 Having the deadlines helped…especially since I’m traveling so much this season.
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Oh my friend I have to disagree with you on doing without the Viagra! Could you imagine truly impotent men with ED and nothing they could do about it. They are all caught up in their egos!!! Thanks so much for the feedback, you are a married lady, I expected intellectual chatter from you all 🙂 Thanks!
testosterone though? Really?? hmm. Yes I definitely think that women are all heart and brain and much less physical and as much as we like to convince ourselves that we can be like a man and get it going anytime we are just simply designed differently and I am okay with that. It doesn’t surprise me at all that is a common question, we are a different kind of woman these days, businesses and all kinds of other stress. Popping a pill to get things going would be an easy way out!! I personally think though…with the right one…things just magically happen. (pardon me I have also been listening to a very um, different, beyonce cd all weekend that has me feeling some type of way LOLOL)
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I predict drug companies will eventually come out with an FDA approved women’s viagra, but the side effect will be “diarrhea during orgasm”. LOL! (sadly, I honestly predict that)
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OMG, that is cray!
My understanding is that exercise is the best thing to increase a healthy libido!
I read recently that Viagra is being used to treat menstrual cramps in women.
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I love this b/c there’s so much truth in it! Women absolutely are far more sexual in their minds and hearts – it takes a village!! I think they need to keep working to find something for women who suffer from this because it can certainly destroy a relationship. Sex is SO important!…and I didn’t read 50 shades of grey. I may be the only one 🙂
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Thanks for the feedback Allie! In my opinion you didn’t miss much on not reading 50!!!
I already have a mustache that I gotta keep a watch for in the 10X mirror and I’m pretty sure my voice is a tenor now if I returned to singing on a choir – therefore no thanks to testosterone. Never read Fifty Shades so I’m not witness there. Third question – YES!!
I have taken Ambien but the side effects were not worth it. I sleep good but if my son had called me in the night I don’t think I would have heard him. And the next day I had a lingering headache and felt tired.
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Those side effects are so real, I understand!
Interesting. Because of my husbands diseases he takes meds that lower his testosterone significantly so this would be the last thing I need. 🙂
I do think that this is highly mental for women and because of that I’d suggest that they talk to their partner. Even after many years together some men still need some guidance on what gets your motor running. And it may have even changed over the years.
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Very interesting topic today!!! I don’t think I would ever take a pill for this. For me, far better than a pill is a husband (or partner) that takes part in all of the other million things around the house!!
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I understand Kim! There are several other aspects to fostering a thriving marriage!
What a way to get me out of my afternoon slump! I perked right up when I saw this post. I am a visual person so seeing something or visualizing by reading gets me going.
I think women can benefit from a libido enhancement. When you hear stories about sexual decline post-marriage and post-baby, it’s true. After doing all of your daily routines for yourself and others, you want to hit the bed–to sleep! However your partner may not feel the same. Compromises and sacrifices have to be made to keep a relationship healthy and vibrant. What the right enhancement form is…I don’t know. Faking it until you make it can only last for so long. A pill for women might help get their mind in the game along with their body.
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I agree that it doesn’t need to be dismissed. It is a true problem for men and women during different stages of life. I will continue to follow this interesting research and try to keep you all updated!
No crickets here! I think it’s intriguing. And I think many women do think with their heads and it’s not simple. Sometimes my husband is a real grump (for lack of a better word) to me and it’s not exactly going to get me hot and bothered if you criticize something I do, tell me I use the vacuum wrong, make me give the kids their baths, and then wonder why I’m not throwing you against a wall! Sigh. I miss college sometimes.
I have a penicillin allergy so yes, the side effects are not worth it! Luckily there are other antibiotics out there.
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Think with their heads! That sounds so repetitive! I hope you know what I meant. Following by mind and heart, rather than just body.
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I agree Tamara! If they are keeping you happy, you will be able to keep them happy!
Haha Joi! Only you, lol! I agree, we women are stimulated intellectually more so than physically, BUT, there’s.nothing.wrong.with.being.stimulated.physically! LOL! 😀 Anywho, as far as the women who say they operate like men…lies they tell! I can guarantee you that they’re the main ones going home crying in their pillows. I also believe that your physical health has a lot to do with your libido. Both my husband and I are 45(almost 46) and he still puts a twinkle in my toes! 😉 Have a good one Joi!
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I agree and it’s so sad! What are they trying to prove and to whom?
You always have the most interesting topics. I would not be interested in viagra like pill for women. I can tell you if my husband is complaining about something I did or didn’t do, that does not put me in the mood. However 50 Shades of Grey did. I swore I was not going to read that series but on the advice of my girlfriends I read it, and I will say my husband was happy I did. 🙂
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Thank you Michelle! I try to cover a variety of health, fitness, and prosperity topics! Good for the 2 of you on the 50 Shades thing :)!
I wonder if this was the same drug that I saw them talking about on the Katie Couric show a few months back. The funny thing about them brining up an equivalent to Viagra for women in my mind was, the doctors who were on the show admitted that other drugs that women were taking for other things were actually decreasing their libidos…also their diets and lack of exercise. The main decrease in libido they were saying was birth control. This actually didn’t surprise me. So many women go on it for long periods of time, and with the influx in people complaining about libido, it just made sense. I personally never like to use drugs because I just feel like there are too many side effects that half the time the FDA isn’t sure about until after the fact. They name enough to make me want to be cautious in the first place. I’m also a healthy living advocate so I’m all about using diet and exercise to naturally increase even sex drive. I’m in my late 20s and I haven’t had a personal issue even after having a baby, thank God. I think it also has to do with your partner being in tune with you as a woman. The point you made about women being more emotional when it comes to sex is very true. Communication in marriage about what you like, how and when is important. A husband who loves you will listen and respond. And hey, when he doesn’t get it right, you have a lifetime to learn each other and to fix things along the way. 🙂
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I had more of a desire for sex when I was excising regularly. Being tired all the time and causes inactivity in the bedroom, so I’m making a point to get active once the group classes begin at work in January. I suppose a pill is fine for women who really need it, but working out really helps! My honey can’t take many more, “I’m too tired” excuses.
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I think I’ll make a post out the exercise mentions! Thanks Sherelle!
I think it is about the head and the heart for most women. Although they might be able to manufacture a drug that makes sex more pleasurable for women, I’m not sure if they will ever be able to come up with something that fixes libido problems. And, honestly, I would be afraid to try it if they did. I try to stay away from medicine that isn’t completely necessary.
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Me too Tracie! Thx for the feedback!
Gurlllll! Lol. Let me tell you, I have quite a few opinions on this, so I’m anxiously awaiting the following up post on tomorrow. I truly don’t believe that all women become emotional tied to men simply because sex was/is involved, but what do I know? Not much.
For the FDA to have rejected the pill because of the risks and side effects I wonder where these opponents were when Accutane rolled out. Pretty dangerous stuff…
Ready for Wednesday!
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The Accutane has some extreme monitoring! The side effects for this were messing with the mind…not good! 50 Shades has been a popular solution. I say you cash in on it and write your own erotic 400 pages 😉 !
I don’t really think they will ever have a female viagra either. Women are too emotionally connected to sex whether they want to believe it or not. And I don’t think a pill can help that. Like I tell my husband, cleaning the kitchen makes me hot. It starts in the mind.
Agreed LaShawn!
Ain’t no way on God’s green earth am I taking hormone drugs that will turn me into Scary Mary. Deep voice, hair growth, and a nymphomaniac. No, thank you…I’ll stick to herbs, vitamins, and exercise for $1,000 Alex. lol
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Lol, Sonya! The things we are willing to go through!
Ha! I love you so much for suggesting reading, cause honestly, it helps 😛
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